Reflections

It can be useful to see inner work as a continuous process unfolding in cycles. I find it helpful to envisage the movement of change as a spiral. As you engage in processes that grow your awareness and sense of self, you can see this as the widening out of the spiral. Inner work is an intensive process, and at times you might feel like you're revisiting the same bend of the spiral, but the nature of the spiral is that it's ‘ever-expanding outwards’ (Kai Cheng Thom). Even degr

Felt senses come in many forms. There are more familiar ones, like tightness, pain, tension, heat, and emotional states. To ones we might be less conscious of, such as musculature bracing, nervous system dysregulation, patterns of protection - like a sinking feeling in the tummy or an armouring that pulls you inward when something feels off about a situation or person. There are felt senses bound up in reflexive movements, such as an impulse to flee an unsafe situation. There

Many of the people I’ve supported over the years have carried a deep sense of unbelonging. This has come from social persecution, ruptures in family of origin, or repeated relational disruptions. These experiences make it hard to orient towards to the hurt inside without feeling overwhelmed. So, we build architectures of protection that keep us away from our feelings, our needs, and when and where to set boundaries.